25 Questions You Should Ask Your Significant Other Before Marriage

Do you desire a marriage that’s full of love, connection, understanding, and meaning? Do you ever wonder how other couples just seem to have everything together and always seem to get along no matter the circumstances? Well maybe it’s because they’ve discussed these 25 questions together to take their relationship to a deeper and more intentional place. The great news is that you can have this type of relationship as well!

I’ve put these 25 questions together as a starting point to get the ball rolling for couples wanting to take the next step in their relationship, marriage. This is by no means an exhaustive list or the only topics that should be discussed. I encourage you to take your time walking through the questions and fully understanding each others answers to all of these questions so that you are both aware of how the other feels on important and sensitive topics.

Here are the questions:

1. What are your long-term goals and aspirations for the future?

2. How do you envision our roles and responsibilities within our relationship?

3. What are your views on marriage and commitment?

4. How do you handle conflict and disagreements in relationships?

5. What are your expectations regarding finances and financial management?

6. How do you prioritize spending time together versus time apart?

7. Do you want to have children, and if so, how do you envision parenting?

8. What are your thoughts on career aspirations and work-life balance?

9. How important is religion or spirituality in your life, and how do you want it to influence our relationship?

10. What are your views on household chores and division of labor?

11. How do you handle stress and adversity, and how can I support you during challenging times?

12. What are your communication preferences and how do you express love and affection?

13. Have you been in previous serious relationships, and if so, what have you learned from them?

14. What are your boundaries and expectations regarding friendships and social activities?

15. How do you envision spending holidays and special occasions as a couple?

16. What role do family dynamics play in your life, and how do you navigate relationships with extended family members?

17. What are your thoughts on personal growth and self-improvement within our relationship?

18. How do you feel about seeking outside support, such as counseling or therapy, if needed?

19. What are your views on gender roles and equality within our relationship?

20. How do you prioritize self-care and well-being, and how can we support each other in this area?

21. What are your hobbies, interests, and passions, and how can we incorporate them into our relationship?

22. How do you define trust and loyalty, and what are your expectations regarding fidelity in our relationship?

23. What are your boundaries and preferences regarding technology and social media use within our relationship?

24. How do you envision maintaining intimacy and connection as our relationship evolves?

25. What are your deal-breakers and non-negotiables in a relationship, and how can we ensure that our needs and values align moving forward?

If you’d rather have an easy way to print these out to keep track of answers and take notes on what each other has to say, then use this link to download my PDF version of these questions!